- “Creating a new narrative that reflects the way you’d like to show up in the dating space is very important,” stressed Shauna Pollard, Ph.D., a licensed clinical psychologist from Maryland. “Get clear on what you want for yourself and work on writing out thoughts that reflect a healthy dating life.”
“It takes time – and practice – to change negative thoughts, but a good rule of thumb for newbies is to come up with thoughts that are five percent more positive than your old one,” Dr. Pollard explains. “Find the negative kernel of truth and balance it out with something a little more positive. If you need help, reach out to a friend or therapist who can help you pay attention to your good qualities and strengths.”
